Young, Conservative and Working for Trump? The Dating Pool Is Small
Julie Spira, a dating coach and author of “Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics Is Polarizing Relationships,” said politics has become the “No. 1 deal breaker” for singles, with many holding Mr. Trump responsible for cleaving a wider cultural divide. The president and his supporters counter by blaming the news media.
“I think potentially you could be cutting the dating pool in half if you only want to date someone who voted the same way you do,” Ms. Spira said. “But if you have very strong feelings about the wall or about health care or about women’s rights, and you have very strong feelings about things that are changing in our country, and you want to watch the news cycle with your potential love interest, it’s something that happens.”
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“Should it be a dealbreaker? Not necessarily,” said Julie Spira, an online dating expert and the author of “Love In The Age of Trump: How Politics Is Polarizing Relationships.”
Spira says she has seen increased vitriol around national politics cause more frustration and division among singles. At issue is that many of the topics making political headlines now — immigration, women’s rights and gun control — are deeply intimate to people.
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As an online dating expert and dating coach, and one in the business of forging love relationships, I know that politics is now front-and-center. It’s had a dramatic impact on dating, and online dating in particular, and it hit home for me at the core.
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“It’s becoming increasingly common for people to avoid dating across the political spectrum altogether,” says Spira. She polled singles about their willingness to date someone with opposing political views and the results were clear. “The majority, 68 percent, said no, with 28 percent saying yes,” says Spira. “I also polled singles to find out if they’d date someone who didn’t vote … during the midterm elections. The results were alarming, with 87 percent saying they wouldn’t date someone who didn’t vote.
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“For the first time, differing politics has become the number one deal-breaker in relationships,” Spira, author of Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships, tells Elite Daily. “Since politics is so much more than supporting a party, and the issues at stake are severe, [dating success] really comes down to finding someone with shared values.”
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Online dating expert Julie Spira said on Nightline, “I feel that this presidency has created this politically divisive environment that potentially could cut the dating pool in half.”
“Dating a smoker has been replaced with politics on what I call the dating totem pole. People think their date can quit smoking, but they’re not going to change their attitudes about the issues associated with a particular candidate.”
Politics is Affecting Dating and Intimacy, Expert Says
Online dating expert Julie Spira said during an interview with “Rising” on Tuesday that politics is increasingly affecting people’s romantic lives, particularly among millennials.
“Now we see politics at the top and it’s not just affecting how you date … politics has actually moved into the bedroom,” Spira told Hill.TV’s Krystal Ball and Buck Sexton.
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“Politics has moved into the bedroom,” said Julie Spira, a Los Angeles-based online dating coach who created cyberdatingexpert.com. “It’s important to discuss these things before you end up taking your clothes off or before you end up getting deeply involved with someone. People want a partner who is going to support your strong belief about what’s happening with the world.
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“As a dating coach, I work with people who are adamant in saying, ‘I will not date anybody who voted for Trump,'” says Julie Spira, a national online dating expert based in Los Angeles. “People get so agitated if they end up across a table from someone who voted for the opposite party’s candidate.”
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If you and your partner can’t get over your political differences, online dating expert and author of Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships, Julie Spira, says you’re not alone.
“The divisiveness we see now is very real in today’s political climate. I believe most singles want to date someone with similar political views or find their political love match.”
Julie Spira is currently writing a book called “Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships” to offer her advice to singles entering this divisive dating scene and struggling to make authentic connections with people across the political spectrum.
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“In Trump’s America, singles with different political views are finding it more challenging than ever to date across party lines,” Spira tells Elite Daily.
“In conducting research for my book… and in interviewing close to 100 singles and couples, I’ve found that nine out of 10 singles felt strongly about the political views of a potential date.”
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Dating comes with a lot of hurdles and explanations.
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Instead, tell people what you’re on the app for. “Just be confident. I’m on Tinder to meet someone special: swipe right if you’re a political junkie, or swipe right if you love music,” said Spira.
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“People are so divided in our country right now that they don’t even want to start a relationship with someone who they don’t agree with politically. I’ve never seen it like this, ever,” Spira said.
“Being on the same political page is more important to singles now than it has ever been in history. It used to be that dating a smoker was a top deal-breaker. That’s been replaced with politics.”
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“Some people believe that opposites attract and they like to meet someone that’s not a carbon copy of themselves,” Spira says. “This way they have an opportunity to learn more about different things in life and different opinions.
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“Knowing how someone leans politically can ignite a healthy debate while helping you dig deeper to try to understand if their values and attitudes are in alignment with yours,” explains Spira. “I know one woman who refused a date, just because she found out her date didn’t vote.”